Experiencing an unplanned pregnancy can be one of the most challenging things a woman experiences in her life. If you’re navigating these challenging circumstances, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone, and you have options!
No matter what option you choose, consider that adoption is a courageous and loving decision and might end up being one of the most rewarding things you do. While the idea of adoption is often surrounded by negative stereotypes and connotations, this choice can be incredibly empowering to women who choose it.
There are three main types of adoption:
partially open adoption
Birth parents, especially birth moms, are entirely in the driver’s seat regarding their adoption plans.
Open adoptions are more and more becoming the preferred adoption plan among birth parents. According to The Donaldson Adoption Institute, 95 percent of adoptions are now open in some way.
Open adoption means not only are you able to pick the family, but you’re also likely able to speak with them about your child through letters, photos, phone calls, or visits. The terms of your adoption are up for you to design! If you choose to work with an adoption agency, you’ll have guidance and help when it comes to the details of your plan and negotiation.
In short, in an open adoption, the child will grow up with some kind of knowledge of who their birth parent is and have some form of contact with them. In contrast, closed adoptions mean that the information about the two parties stays confidential.
Types of Open Adoptions
As the birth mother, you can decide what open adoption means to you. Some examples of open adoption scenarios might include the following:
Some birth mothers choose to have scheduled face-to-face visits with their child. These visits can be on special days like birthdays or holidays or a few specified days of the year. The details and terms of these visits will be enforced based on the initial adoption contract — this will ensure that the birth mother’s desires are protected and respected!
Talking Over Text, Calls, or Emails
Some birth mothers feel that seeing their child in person might be too difficult or overwhelming, making occasional conversations over these channels an appealing option.
Connecting Through Letters and Photos
This is an excellent option for birth mothers who want to stay connected to their child’s life from afar! Many adoption agencies will even work with you to coordinate this, keeping your address private if you choose.
As you consider whether or not adoption is right for you, remember that this is your choice and you should feel empowered to make the decision that is right for you!
If you’re experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and are interested in adoption, we’re here to help you along the way! Colorado Springs Pregnancy Center can provide you with adoption agency referrals and help you create an adoption plan that works for you! Contact us to learn more.